If the child withdraws into himself or can’t concentrate on homework, it is an occasion to understand the reasons. Sometimes they can be quite serious.
On average, 10 percent of students have different mental health problems, from the relatively light deviations to noticeable problems. It’s about three people in each class. Sometimes it’s just age features which will take place over time. But sometimes it’s alarm bells that are worth paying attention to.
In any case, you’ll need all the tact and all your delicacy, and also the help of professionals to determine what you are dealing with.
Here are the signs that you should pay attention:
1. Mood change
Children’s whims are completely normal, they change by the day. But if the child is constantly in a bad mood, or worried, afraid of something for a long time, it is an occasion to understand. Sometimes the reason is in his school environment, and it is possible to solve, figure out the key problem.
2. Sleep disturbance
Sleep problems are common in children and adolescents due to age-related changes. However, prolonged insomnia in combination with other signs should alert.
3. Inability to concentrate
It is impossible to demand perseverance from the rolling of the child in the lower grades. But if he is not able to focus on homework even at home, for a short time and in a comfortable environment, it is necessary to pay attention to. Punishment and shouts are completely useless here, by the way.
4. The appetite
Sudden weight loss or sudden recruitment can indicate an eating disorder. Every disorder has causes that are worth finding out. From elementary tasteless food in the school cafeteria to stress, which greatly affects the appetite.
5. the desire to harm herself
Obsessive pinching myself, nibble nails, bitten lips, even involuntary urination — all these varieties of self-harm. It is necessary to find the cause that is causing the child such nervous behavior.
6. Substance abuse
It is rather about Teens than about smaller children, but there are exceptions. Experiments can be part of growing up, but nervous disorders and abuse always go hand in hand.
Even if your teenager does not use drugs, you should pay attention to his relationship with alcohol, Smoking and drugs.
What to do?
1. Open, friendly and sympathetic talk with the child. Listen to him without interrupting and arguing. In any case, tell him not that his problems are insignificant. For him they are huge. Respect that.
2. Find joint solutions to problems which will suit you and the child. Yes, to transfer to another school can be troublesome, and to arrange a showdown with the bullies or the school (which also happens) with teachers — it seems impossible. But it’s your child, and he has no one to turn to for help except you.
3. Follow what you agreed with him.
4. If the child’s condition is not improving, seek help from professionals.
5. If the child finds it difficult to articulate what was troubling him, turn to the experts.
6. In any case do not use medicines that you have recommended friends! Or that you found on the Internet. All appointments of the doctor check out two third-party experts.