Why one couple lived together for 30 years, and the other decays after 2 years of marriage? Why children in the same family grow into happy adults, and children raised in a different family, become neurotic, unable to fend for themselves or are able to feel better only at the expense of others? Why are some people happy and others not?
To these and other questions can answer the psychology of relationships. She finds out the reasons of the actions and behavior of people, therefore, everyone should learn a little bit of science and psychology to razbiratsya in yourself and in people around you.
So, why people live happily ever after?
First, because they approached each other. Because their marriage is built not only on love and mutual attraction but also on shared interests, views on life. Second, because people compromise. Thirdly, because they are Mature enough to respect each other, and therefore, the needs and desires of each other.
After that, it becomes more clear why others are barely held together for a year. Their marriage was built solely on abruptly appeared the feelings gradually cool down, and under them nothing more. No common interests. But there is selfishness. As a result of the sense to stay together remains.
Of whom grow up to be happy adults?
By and large, the question is not quite correct, because the happiness does not last permanently. But it can be the result of a responsible approach to your life, the proper organization of family life, thoughtfully selected work and so on. So who does that? Adults turned into children, which at the right moment, were taught to be adults. To which the parents were treated with respect, but it is and how to children for whom they are responsible. These children were encouraged for their interest in what is happening. Helped them when difficulties arose. They are not humiliated when they get scared or something is not understood. These children never stopped.
In turn, children who are able to live at the expense of others or, conversely, to put on his neck for all who want it, grew up with parents who resent them, which at their expense had raised their self-esteem. These children are often abused and forced, rather than developed their addiction. In the result, such children have very vague ideas about decency, responsibility, their own borders. Their self-esteem depends on success and achievements. Or because they are in demand.
Information about what are the relations that are useful at any age, because you can always change. The main thing is not to afraid to admit their own mistakes and begin to take responsibility.