Insecure people play the role of slave: everything is decided for them, they scolded their opinion at naught. These people themselves did not dare neither to the girl to approach, or to run your business project. They are hopeless? Of course not. They can afford to help.
The root of the problem lies, ironically, in childhood. If a child is not instilled in the personal web, it becomes a passive, non-confrontational and just indifferent man. Such men pushed around wives, including wives, husbands pushed around, but these parents are not children to believe authority. Not a pretty picture? But not hopeless.
Most of these people anyway, realize that their insecurity to blame the parents. The good thing is that they recognize the problem, yet many people do not think. The bad thing is that such people often focus only on the criticism, saying: it’s not my fault my parents brought up so!
So. How to be the man who’s caught up in his constant doubts, fears and hesitation of action?
First of all, you need to check yourself into three parts:
The presence of your favorite things, Hobbies
Self-sufficiency is independence from others. Can an adult a month to live alone? If Yes, then all is well. If not, this needs to work. People with high self-sufficiency relies on yourself, not on others, so overconfidence has more. In romantic relationships, lack of self-sufficiency is especially harmful because it runs the scheme “child-parent”, that kills the romance and attraction.
My Hobbies – some measure of human value to others. No enthusiastic people attract little attention, so find what you like. Music, photo, astronomy, fiction, skateboarding, snowboarding, skiing, drawing and so on. Having a hobby develops the individual, makes it more attractive and therefore more confident.
The appearance of the person is important for his confidence. It’s not about biological appearance, and grooming and style. In other words, if badly groomed boyfriend to take a shower, shave, and change the closet, he’ll be elated and more confident.
As soon as people decide these three questions, he will find basic self-confidence. With this “base”, he will be able to make their own decisions and please people, understand aspects of communicating with people and begin to develop conflictologist. Everything else depends on the degree of uncertainty and from the man himself. To remain there, floating in an updated, but familiar and peaceful routine, or move on, evolve, and improve yourself – everyone decides for himself.